And this is why I'm sticking it out

[A small disclaimer: so I realize I've had quite a bit of ranting lately. I feel it necessary to point out that I really am an optimistic person & I try to see the good in everything, but I know I probably come off as the complete opposite in this blog.]

Our current kitchen

 The reason I wanted to share this is because this is by far the #1 reason why we consider the Rome our dream home & why I've put up with the shitstorm that we've dealt with in order to get it.

Last night at 10:30 at night (and in the middle of watching the season premiere of Law & Order: SVU), I decided I needed to make cookies. And then I groaned. Why? I freaking hate our current kitchen. We have 4 small squares of counter space & I dread trying to prepare food in it. But I dragged out my giant KitchenAid mixer (which basically takes up one of my counter squares) & went to town. An hour later, I was finally finished. When I finally sat down, I told my husband how in a few more months I would have 2 glorious ovens to bake all of my cookies at the same time (not to mention all of that counter space to spread out while I baked). As much complaining as I've done, I really can't wait to build our dream home!

Does anyone buy GE without being forced?

Doing research for our appliances has been driving me insane. I knew since we didn't have the built in wall double oven option (yes, I realize it could be done, but we have already spent over 70k in upgrades/selections & adding it would cost a lot more) that we would need a freestanding gas range w/double oven. First I checked out the reviews on Home Depot/Lowes/Best Buy, then I cross-checked those against the reviews on Consumer Reports. And basically I've come to the conclusion that GE appliances blow. The reviews on all of their appliances are horrendous and I'm convinced that the only way they are staying in business is the deal they have with the new home builders (not only does Ryan exclusively use them, but so do Ryland Homes & Lennar).

As some of you already know, RH will not give you the option of providing your own appliances (which I think is a BS "code", considering ppl sell houses all of the time without appliances) so if we wanted to go that route, we would have to pay for the appliances through RH, have them left in the garage, try to sell them, them order our own & have them delivered & installed. OK, that sounds like a great idea when you're in the middle of moving.

So I think we finally picked the least shitty GE gas range double oven option (and if you remember, we have to pay the retail price of the oven, on top of the $1450 we already paid to upgrade the appliances to stainless steel), but then I got started researching the dishwasher that was included. Ugh. Yes, another hunk of crap. And it's ugly, too! So after another day of research, we picked what I hope will be the "lesser of two evils" of crappy GE dishwashers. So we sent this to our SR to find out how much this is going to cost us. Even though it's only $200 more than the price of the included dishwasher, I have a feeling they're going to make us pay the entire retail cost with this one as well. I'll warn you in advance that there will most likely be another "I'm Fed Up" post coming...

And this is why sales people get a bad rap

Let me preface by saying my husband is in sales. Maybe I'm biased, and while it annoys me as his wife, he's a damn good one. Why? Because he goes above and beyond. He stays up working on things for his customers, he answers the phone every time it rings, he deals with emails as soon as his Blackberry dings (I want to throw that damn thing in the trash).

Our SR? Not so much. I liked him in the beginning; he was very quick to respond to our requests (of course, he was trying to get the sale) but now it's just starting to get ridiculous. As I mentioned before, it took almost two weeks just to find out what the double oven was going to cost us (every time we tried to follow up, we were told all the bigwigs were having meetings, they had inventory, yada yada yada). It took us three days to get him to respond back with the fridge space measurements (come on, he works in the damn model, he couldn't walk the 15 steps to measure it). It took over a week for him to get back to us about the useable back yard space (I don't know if I elaborated, but we receievd out plot review & it showed we had 30' of backyard even though when we measured ourselves when they plotted off the house corners, it only measured 15' due to a huge drop from our back yard). My husband even emailed him to tell him we had additional things we wanted to add/upgrade and not only did he (the SR) not bother asking what we wanted to add, he didn't respond PERIOD. Not even to acknowledge that we wanted to add things.

Not to mention, everything was yes in the beginning (which we turned out was a bad thing, since he told us yes to things he knew weren't an option/weren't available). Now, when we ask if we can get some form of discount to upgrade additional selections (and we only asked for 5%, when we know that's well below RH's direct profit range), we're told no. You can really tell the difference between how they treat new vs current "customers" and that is really disappointing.

Guardian- check

After reading some of the blogs, I had an idea what was available from Guardian. We considered having the above fireplace TV mount but reconsidered when we realized 1. we'd be craining our heads up to watch the TV and 2. we'd have to figure out where to put the stupid cable box and 3. the only reason I even want the fireplace is to have a mantel to use for decoration (yes, how stupid is it that we're paying 3k+ for a decoration holder), which wouldn't really wouldn't be conducive for mounting a TV on it.

We knew we weren't really interested in the "techie" things like surround sound, intercom, sound system, alarm system, vacuum, etc. (we've lived without them for so long & never had a moment where we felt like our quality of life would be improved if we had them) so we our plan going into this meeting was to only add cable outlets in the family room, loft, and each of the bedrooms; and thank goodness, because we blew a TON of meeting at that Rite Rug flooring appointment and our double oven fiasco is still ongoing. Of course, I did still have concerns because I didn't know if we were going to get "upsold" or given a sales pitch and we didn't know how much all of the outlets were going to cost, so we weren't sure how painful this meeting was going to be. (The last thing you want is to go into something with a plan, get show a ton of stuff that blows your mind, and not be able to afford it.) Thankfully our rep was awesome & that didn't happen. I didn't see any other options that I felt we needed and we were able to use our 4 allotted outlets (he said it's typically 2 phone, 2 cable) all for cable (we have not had a home phone in the five years we've been married, we plan to live in this house for at least 10 years & I think by then no one is going to be using landlines). So while my brother (a TW cable installer) told me it was a total ripoff to spend $125 per outlet since it costs less than $25 to do, we were still thrilled to leave there having only spent $250.

Our littler helper hard at work. Look at all of those things to mess with and can you believe she didn't touch a single one?! If only that was the case at home!

OK, she did mess with the vacuum they had.

I'm so fed up

If you read this post, you know we've had a few issues with what I perceive to be bait & switch with Ryan Homes. After the disappointment with being offered one lot, then given another lot almost half the size, I felt like we weren't offered any real consolation for losing 4000 sq ft of yard (really, a black aluminum fence & 6 trees?). We went back & forth some more, asking for some form of discount on upgrading our carpet padding & a double oven. And then we waited. And waited. And waited. Almost 2 weeks and we finally got an answer today. We've been given a whopping $150 off the carpet padding and told they could upgrade our oven at the cost they would be charged, which is less than $200 off what we would pay retail for the damn thing. And this is after we ALREADY paid $1450 to upgrade to stainless steel. Are you freaking kidding me? $1450 to upgrade three appliances, one of which (the dishwasher) gets horrendous reviews so we'll probably end up replacing it within the next six months anyway. So now three appliances are going to cost us $4350 (the dishwasher retail is only $450, microwave is $400 so that means we're paying $3500 just so I can get a freestanding double oven, since the wall double oven isn't an option according to our SR).

So much for getting any sort of consolation for losing half of our yard. Ugh. It's a good thing my husband has a level head, because I was seething from this recent development & wanted to call our SR, tell him the whole deal was off & that RH could shove it. I am seriously having second doubts about this home building process. If we're having this many issues and we haven't even broken ground, what in the hell else is going to go wrong??

I am a shitty decision maker

We've already started researching appliances (refrigerators & washer/dryer since we're not having RH provide them due to poor reviews from the GEs they have available). I thought I was pretty much set on a Samsung and then I read some techie article raving about the LG LFX31935ST, which had a "super blast chiller" that can chill a bottle of wine or two cans in five minutes. Of course, then I decided I had to have that one. I don't even drink wine more than once every two months. And in the off chance that I do, I've never been in a situation where I've been so desperate to drink it that I needed it to be chilled in five minutes. But still, it made me second guess my previous Samsung pick. My husband is right, I am a total marketer's dream.

On another note, who knew refrigerators could be so pretty??

Samsung RF323TEDBSR

LG LFX31935ST

We're floored

Yesterday we met with Rite Rug to make our flooring selections. I was dreading this because the consultant told us it should take 2hrs and anyone that has a toddler knows it's damn near impossible to try and make an informed decision while fetching a thrown cup, handing a snack cup, & playing Choo Choo Soul song for the 15th time; I was sure it was going to take twice that.

Thankfully, we have similar tastes & just like what we like, so the majority of our decisions were made as soon as we saw "the one." And thank goodness for the iPad + Apptivity case; it managed to keep Fi occupied for almost the entire time we were there. The only negative was the small coronary I had when I realized how much additional money we were going to spend. {Seriously, if you're going to build a house be prepared to spend 60k+ on top of what the home costs. What's "included" is crap & once you see what you could have, there's no way to unsee it.}

So here's what we picked (except the secondary bath ceramic, I forgot to get a picture of that).

Our kitchen cabinets (Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux) & granite (Santa Cecelia)

Closeup of the granite (I wish you all could see this in person, it is so much prettier since you can't see the shimmery swirls in the pictures).

The wood laminate floors that will be throughout the first floor (Armstrong Illusions Autumn Mahogany)

Carpet that will be on the stairs & throughout the second floor (Shaw Siesta Twist Hominy) 

Tile & accent for the master bath

Vinyl for the laundry room

And our little helper.

As you can see, she took her duties very seriously!

{Future} Home Sweet Home

The Rome

Take a tour

Floorplan with our selections

Exterior

• Elevation L with stone
• Cottage elevation garage door
• Garage door opener After doing some research, we found that the opener RH uses is a chain system. Since the garage door is directly below a bedroom, this is a problem for us as our current door is a chain lift and it is so loud, Rob has to manually open the garage door to leave for work every morning so it doesn't wake Fi up.
• Fan rough-in on front porch
• Oil rubbed bronze door hardware
• Rear floodlights
• 10x14 patio 10x23 patio (Rob decided he wanted he wanted the patio to be flush with the Family room wall, since that extra grass would probably just end up being unused. We're hoping to put a hot tub on the extra space once our kids are old enough to not worry about them drowning in it!)

Interior
First Floor

• Level G laminate throughout entire first floor (Armstrong Autumn Mahogany)
• Pine stair with white ballisters & Mahogany stained oak handrail

Kitchen

• Morning room
• 2 additional windows in morning room
• Double patio door to patio
• Gourmet Island
• 3 pre-wires over island for pendant lights (I fell in love with the idea after seeing them in this RH blogger's kitchen)
• 42" cabinets
• Maple Espresso cabinets Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux cabinets. After reading that these were veneer cabinets (& show smudged & are scratched easily) we decided to upgrade to the Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux since they are solid wood. I know each builder/manufacturer is different but we currently live in a Pulte w/veneer cabinets & every single one of them is peeling.
• Cabinet crown molding
• Santa Cecilia granite counters
• Tile backsplash We decided against it since I did not like the options available (I want more of a glass mosaic tile), so we will DIY or have someone install for us in the future.
• Oil rubbed bronze cabinet hardware
• 60/40 undermount sink 
• Upgraded kitchen faucet
• Recessed lightin
• Under cabinet lighting (I was on the fence about this b/c it's pricy & we have seen some feasible DIY options but ultimately I did not want wires hanging down from under the cabinets & I also didn't want to have to manually turn each light on & off. by having RH do them, the cords will be hidden & we will have a light switch that turns them on/off.) 
• Gas range hook-up
• Level IV stainless steel appliances We were unhappy with the reviews of the appliances available so we requested the best rated GE models we could find (since RH has a contract & cannot provide you with a different brand) & will pay the retail price.
• Pull out waste basket & tray We decided not to upgrade this after we found out it would basically only include a pull out waste basket & one pull out tray under the kitchen sink. For almost $300, it wasn't worth the money IMO.

Family Room

• Rear gas fireplace with slate surround
• Ceiling fan rough-in

Second Floor

• Second full bath in bedroom 4
• 10lb carpet pad throughout second floor (Brigadiere)
• Level E carpet throughout second floor (Shaw Siesta Twist Hominy)
• Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux bathroom cabinets
• Ceramic tile in secondary bathrooms (12x12 Stratford Place Willow branch w/Linen grout)
• Ceiling fan rough-ins for all bedrooms & loft
• Oil rubbed bronze door hardware & bathroom fixtures

Master bath

• Maple Espresso cabinets Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux cabinets (see above)
• Double bowl vanity
• Alternate master bath layout with soaking tub, separate shower with seat 
• Upgraded to jetted tube
• Tub and shower ceramic tile surround (Stratford Place Alabaster Sands w/Antique Linen grout, Listello SA 51 accent)
• Oil rubbed bronze hardware

 Secondary baths

• Maple Espresso cabinets Wyoming Cherry Bordeaux cabinets (see above)
• Ceramic tile in secondary bathrooms (12x12 Stratford Place Willow branch w/Linen grout)
• Oil rubbed bronze hardware

We had a lot of reasons why we ended up building, why we chose Ryan Homes and how we ended up in Waxhaw (one day I'll get around to posting them), but by far the number #1 reason was this: Our community

Sold

Our "offer" (aka where we asked for a bunch of shit & they gave us about half of what we wanted) has been accepted.

Let me give a little backstory. We went to visit the model and fell in love as soon as I saw the kitchen (true story). We got the numbers, came back a week later & negotiated a price and then had to pick our lot. A huge must-have for me was having a large backyard that backed up to trees (I didn't want a view of someone else's house or our neighbors being able to see into our bedrooms). Well we were told that there were lots that the developer had not yet released but the sales rep said they would be releasing them soon & suggested we ask for one of those. After going out to look at them, we decided on one and submitted our offer.

Well 3 days later, we hear back that the monetary part of the offer had been accepted, but the developer was refusing to release the lot we wanted because he (or she, but I'm guessing he b/c HE sounds like a dick) "had no immediate plans to develop those set of lots." Well this was possibly the worst news I could have gotten b/c there were no other lots available that had private backyard, there are only interior lots (IE sandwiched between other houses).

Some more negotiating took place. We wanted a privacy fence, which we couldn't get b/c the only fence approved by the HOA is a wrought iron style (which doesn't provide any real privacy) & 6 6-10' Cyprus trees planted along the back fenceline. I wasn't happy, but we accepted the offer.

The next day, we went to sign the change order & were told the other sales rep had coned off our house corners on the lot so we could get a feel for the backyard. Of course our house's floorplan is huge so I knew it wasn't going to be huge, but we got out there & I was furious; the back of the house to the drop off behind the house was 15 feet. FIFTEEN FUCKING FEET. (Sorry for the language, but I really did yell that and I was about to go Donkey Kong & start throwing the cones around.) So not only were we stuck in an interior lot, sandwiched between other houses, with no private back yard & no option for a privacy fence, but now we were stuck with a damn postage stamp yard?!

Commence immediate emailing back & forth to the sales rep. And me going to check out a bunch of other home builders & communities (my poor husband). Unfortunately (or fortunately, depends who you ask), I didn't find a single other model that suited our needs/wants, fit our budget, and just felt like the right home as the Rome. So, we decided to just deal with our postage stamp. I'm still pissed about it but logically I know we spend so much more time inside than out, that the house itself should be a perfect 10.

And there's our story. You win some, you lose some. Although I have to admit, to be able to have our dream house with an outstanding community (complete with lifestyle coordinator) & amazing school system for Fi, I can't consider it a total loss ;)